Secret's Out

We've been debating about when to tell people. Some have said that we should just go ahead and do it, while others have said that the first 8 weeks are the most critical in the life of a fetus, often determining whether or not a miscarriage occurs. I told my mentor yesterday and he was absolutley stoked. He was one of the ones who suggested we wait a bit, as he and his wife did. He said a friend of theirs announced to the whole world the day they found out they were pregnant, and then miscarried weeks later. He said having to constantly field the "How's the baby doing??" questions after the fact was absolutely devastating. Nonetheless, we decided we should at least tell Mary's parents. We have a good enough relationship with them where we know they wouldn't go around telling everyone, and if we did happen to miscarry, we would probably want them to know anyways. So, on the speakerphone we played a cute little joke on them; Mary asked, "So, have you decided what you are getting me for Mother's Day?" Long pause. "Are you pregnant?" "Yes." Loud screaming. It's strange, it seems as if telling other people somehow makes the pregnancy more real. Despite that fact, it still feels like none of this is happening, like it was just an idea we had or a dream.